Exhausted Men – Combative Women

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August 17, 2017

Three of my colleagues are on vacation. I also have an extra project that I’m working on… I have some family overseas issues which are occupying my mind in searching for solutions. Relatively, there are some emotional pressure due to the surrounding political events… Have I mentioned the extra financial obligations as the start of school year is just around the corner?

I reach home exhausted with no power for extra demands or arguing. However, staying silent or quitting arguments drives you crazy, ladies, doesn’t it!

I’d totally appreciate your help answering this for me:
What women want?

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86 responses to “Exhausted Men – Combative Women”

August 17, 2017

williamrablan

Sorry, folks, Paul wrote that. doesn’t change much except I got my wires crossed.

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August 18, 2017

angiedokos

Just know that we feel the same way sometimes. Men aren’t as perfect as they think they are, they can be just as difficult as us women sometimes. We get tried too. We need love, appreciation, and support too. It’s a pity we usually have to beg for it. We can’t even talk about why we are upset or we get accused of nagging or being a bitch. When some men have a bad day, the entire house gets to hear about it. The stomping, slamming, etc. let’s the entire family know how you feel. But when a woman shares her feelings, she’s being too sensitive, too needy, or a bitch. Husbands and wives need to be each other’s comfort, support, friend, or just a sounding board.

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1. August 19, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Thank you very much, Angie. Very realistic and wise notes. I don’t like such types of men. Being calm when angry is important. I believe when mad, one do/talk things that s/he might regret later.
  I also love your words “Husbands and wives need to be each other’s comfort, support, friend”.
  
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August 18, 2017

-Eugenia

I’ll make it simple-understanding, appreciation, and respect.

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1. August 19, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Thank you very much, Franci. They are simple but very valuable indeed if practiced well.
  
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  1. August 20, 2017
    
    -Eugenia
    
    😉
August 18, 2017

ren

Women want the same thing that men want. Happiness. Sounds crazy, coming from a female, huh?
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Men and women are different, by design! And that is a grand plan by our Creator, for many reasons.
In today’s ‘ changing energies’ or ‘paradigm shift’, relationships can be very challenging. Most couples are unaware of the ongoing ‘energy’ battles between them. Trying to make each feel ‘good’ by sucking the energy from their mate, leaving their mate drained and exasperated. An Energy Vampire is what it boils down to. It is nobodies ‘fault’. It is just the changing times we are living in.
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One thing I have learned, when you do not feed the fire, it can not continue burning. In other words, when you refuse to fall into the ‘trap’ of an argument, in a kind and healthy way, the other person soon gets tired of arguing alone, finds arguing to be nonsensical and usually stops.
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A wonderful book series by James Redfield, ‘Celestine Prophecy’, (also a movie) explains this energy battle real well.
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Hugz to you and do your best to always smile. You appear to have a wonderful, glowing smile which would warm many a heart…. even the woman at home. 😀

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1. August 19, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Oh, Ren. Thank you very much for your sweet words and your wonderful advice. I never thought of this in this way. I believe in so, less talking with smiles. No matter how one is tired or mad, those help a lot. I’ll do my best to read this book or watch the movie.
  
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2. August 19, 2017
  
  ren
  
  MG WELLS – Thank you for liking my reply. I enjoyed your recent post on the upcoming eclipse and will explore your site further. 😀
  
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August 19, 2017

updownflight

I see my husband and I as being very much alike. We both need each other and need love and affection. I have not had an official job for a while, but when I did I guess we needed some time to vent about the jobs to each other, but we knew that venting had to be limited to just a short period. The rest of the time we needed to think about things/hobbies that interested us. Some we did together. Some we did alone.

Since my illness really worsened, my husband has taken on a more stereotypical husband role and me a more stereotypical wife role. In other words, hubby is the main bread winner and I am home. Though I still struggle with my illness, he is struggling with the pressures of work. When he is home I try to make his time at home as happy as possible, when I can.

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1. August 20, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Many blessings to you and your husband, Cindy. Glad to know how cooperative you both are. It’s a real gift. Wish you happy and healthy life all time. Thank you for your encouraging words too.
  
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August 19, 2017

MG WELLS

If a couple are arguing too much, this is not healthy. So many relationships are co-dependent, which is not healthy either. Inter-dependence is the way to go. Both men and women must learn to accept one another and calmly negotiate their feelings and desires. Sometimes, a couple is better off moving on if they cannot connect and are nagging at one another too much. This kind of drama is draining. Thanks for sharing and enjoy the journey!

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1. August 19, 2017
  
  A Plus Attitude
  
  Agreed. I personally don’t like drama in my life. There is plenty of that going on in the world.
  
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2. August 19, 2017
  
  ren
  
  I also agree! Very well put! Eliminate the drama. Thank you for stating that moving on is sometimes a better choice. As crazy as it sounds, that is very important today.
  
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3. August 20, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Thank you M. G. Wells for your valuable advice; especially about inter-dependence. Never thought this way… Things might be different a little bit over here. For example, due to the war situation, it might be difficult for a Syrian lady to find another husband. And thus, it’s a husband duty to do his best to overcome the situation even if they are not going along. Let’s say, for the sake of the beautiful days they had or for the sake of their children…
  
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August 19, 2017

A Plus Attitude

My husband and I are approaching 25 years of wedded bliss. We rarely argue and when we do, frankly I don’t like it. You have to let the small, insignificant stuff go and embrace the good things in each other. Everyone wants to be appreciated, loved and respected. Treat others as you would want to be treated. It helps that I married a pretty amazing man who loves spending time with me and our kids. Tell your mate and anyone who is special to you that they matter and you love them. ❤️️

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1. August 19, 2017
  
  ren
  
  Very good point. “Choose my battles” was a motto of mine, as I weeded out the stress and drama from my world. Thanx and super congrats to your 25 (and more) years of blissful togetherness. I love it!
  
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  1. August 19, 2017
    
    A Plus Attitude
    
    Thank you
2. August 20, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Oh, thaaaank you for your the kind advice. I love this one and glad to know this about you. Wish you happy and blessed life always. My greetings to your husband too.
  
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  1. August 20, 2017
    
    A Plus Attitude
    
    You’re welcome and happy and blessed life to you and yours as well. Enjoy reading your posts and the many comments as well.
  2. August 20, 2017
    
    Mohamad Al Karbi
    
    You’re welcome too… WordPress has wonderful members (such your good self) that honor my site by their comments and honest advice
August 19, 2017

joey

Hmm. Hard to say. Maybe she feels she isn’t taken seriously, maybe her demands are unreasonable. Not enough information provided.

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1. August 20, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Thank you, Joey. It’s difficult to write every thing especially if someone was upset. So, some demands might be unreasonable. But, to be fair, if a man hates something in his wife, there is another thing that he likes. Though, I agree, every one should be taken seriously…
  
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August 20, 2017

Cari

I get men – men who prefer silence and a quiet home at the end of the day to “more talk”. I think women should be more understanding about this “manly need” for time to “collect oneself” and gather one’s wits even just for a couple of hours.
I’ve had my share of demanding so much from my man and this didn’t improve matters. When I gave him more space and time and did not demand at will, I found matters more favorable.
Talk it out, I guess. Discuss what works and what doesn’t with the mindset and goal that everything is for the betterment of your relationship.

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1. August 20, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  Thank you Cari for the wise advice here. Talking really matters and improves things. However, on some occasions, when we’re angry, it’s difficult to listen or to talk. Here, being silent could be the solution… Men usually are selfish and think the solution is in the hand of women. You could understand the need and improve things in favorable way… Many blessings…
  
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August 20, 2017

RhapsodyBoheme

Ha, I’m afraid this probably can’t be generalized and perhaps it is why there still is no answer. Hang in there, much is happening in your life and calmer times are around the corner.

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1. August 20, 2017
  
  Mohamad Al Karbi
  
  I know that there are some questions without answers. This is life. Thank you, Rhapsody Bohème, for your kind and encouraging words. Many blessings for you…
  
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  1. August 20, 2017
    
    RhapsodyBoheme
    
    And to you Mohamad. Hugs.
  2. August 20, 2017
    
    Mohamad Al Karbi
    
    😳