Staying strong in the face of rejection

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Life sets us up for a fail. From the get-go we’re taught that the hero always wins, the princess will get her prince and fortune favours the bold.

What we’re not taught is the reality; life, sometimes, stinks.

Sometimes you don’t win. Sometimes the prince gets away. Sometimes you get your butt whopped by life.

And to no other cohort does this happen more regularly to than the ‘Creative’. By the ‘Creative’ I am of course referring to the delicate writer, the intuitive actor, the graceful dancer, the trusting songstress, even the daring freelance accountant. Whomsoever you may be, you are a ‘Creative’ and you live in a magical fairy-filled world where good always triumphs. Which makes it oh-so more difficult when you face reality’s hard truth;

Sometimes, you will be rejected.

By whom? The editor who knocks back your manuscript. The make-or-break acting gig that goes to someone else. The record label that turns down your demo tape. The firm who only take juniors with twenty years of experience and a portfolio of existing clients. Rejection, rejection, rejection.

But my little ‘Creative’ ones, I’m here to bring you hope.

Do. Not. Give. Up.

Yes, you will be rejected in life. Because that is life. What you need to remember is that rejection happens to you. Rejection is not you.

There are a myriad of reasons why you might have been rejected; the editor in charge of reading your manuscript had a headache and only glossed over your work. The casting director in charge of hiring the star for the new commercial gave the part to her cousin instead of you. Or maybe, just maybe, your work wasn’t good enough this time. But that doesn’t mean you give up.

It means, rejection has happened to you. You as a human being, were not rejected.

You as a human being are not rejected.

You are not rejected.

Go forth. Do not give up.

Reject rejection.

*I am a writer and frequently rejected. In a stunning turn of events, and to prove my point [never give up] I was asked by the very talented Mohamad Al Karbi, to guest blog. I took this as my chance to share my motto with everyone else out there. Go forth. Do not give up!

For more writing hints and to view my creative writing head to jessicabakkers.com

Many thanks to Mohamah Al Karbi for having me!

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43 responses to “Staying strong in the face of rejection”

  1. raynotbradbury Avatar

    Great message!! Never give up!!

    1. Jessica Bakkers Avatar

      Never give up, never surrender! Thanks for reading!

  2. Mohamad Al Karbi Avatar

    Dear Jessica, wonderful post from a talented writer. It’s a great pleasure and honor to have you here. Thank you.

    1. Jessica Bakkers Avatar

      It was my pleasure to be here Mohamad 😉

  3. -Eugenia Avatar

    Wonderful post by Jessica. Thank you for sharing her work.

    1. Jessica Bakkers Avatar

      Thank you for reading it Eugenia!

  4. francoismagny Avatar

    Indeed, love the post. Thanks.

    1. Jessica Bakkers Avatar

      Thank you Francois!

  5. whatmailenthinks Avatar

    I like this

    ” Yes, you will be rejected in life. Because that is life. What you need to remember is that rejection happens to you. Rejection is not you “

  6. dreamer254 Avatar

    Great post! I always feel a little sad whenever an editor doesn’t respond to me or doesn’t like my article idea, but I get over it and move on. Even though I know this, it’s nice to read words of encouragement and your post did that for me.

    1. Jessica Bakkers Avatar

      Thanks Dreamer! Easy advice to give but yes, so much harder to enact!

  7. Andrea Avatar
    Andrea

    I have kept several of my rejections (always the ones personally writing by an agent, especially if they put in on a lovely card.) I think it helps us to look back on what they have to say – they are after all the professionals. So I take that ‘good at getting emotion on the page, but needs to better adhere to the formula’ as a starting point to remind that I am/can be good at this. I just have to keep trying.

    1. Jessica Bakkers Avatar

      Great advice Andrea. I think I’ll start doing the same!

  8. wongd306 Avatar

    It is within your power to say no to failure and rejection. Just keep believing. Believe in God and believe that you are created unique and He cares that you succeed. Be strong, praying for your breakthrough.

  9. winningsetbacks Avatar

    The very act of being rejected is to spur us on and make us better. let us make rejection an ally and not a foe. the very person that rejected you can take you the next few days, moths or years and you will be the only one to remind him/her because you have become ten fold better.

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