Staying strong in the face of rejection

Life sets us up for a fail. From the get-go we’re taught that the hero always wins, the princess will get her prince and fortune favours the bold.

What we’re not taught is the reality; life, sometimes, stinks.

Sometimes you don’t win. Sometimes the prince gets away. Sometimes you get your butt whopped by life.

And to no other cohort does this happen more regularly to than the ‘Creative’. By the ‘Creative’ I am of course referring to the delicate writer, the intuitive actor, the graceful dancer, the trusting songstress, even the daring freelance accountant. Whomsoever you may be, you are a ‘Creative’ and you live in a magical fairy-filled world where good always triumphs. Which makes it oh-so more difficult when you face reality’s hard truth;

Sometimes, you will be rejected.

By whom? The editor who knocks back your manuscript. The make-or-break acting gig that goes to someone else. The record label that turns down your demo tape. The firm who only take juniors with twenty years of experience and a portfolio of existing clients. Rejection, rejection, rejection.

But my little ‘Creative’ ones, I’m here to bring you hope.

Do. Not. Give. Up.

Yes, you will be rejected in life. Because that is life. What you need to remember is that rejection happens to you. Rejection is not you.

There are a myriad of reasons why you might have been rejected; the editor in charge of reading your manuscript had a headache and only glossed over your work. The casting director in charge of hiring the star for the new commercial gave the part to her cousin instead of you. Or maybe, just maybe, your work wasn’t good enough this time. But that doesn’t mean you give up.

It means, rejection has happened to you. You as a human being, were not rejected.

You as a human being are not rejected.

You are not rejected.

Go forth. Do not give up.

Reject rejection.

*I am a writer and frequently rejected. In a stunning turn of events, and to prove my point [never give up] I was asked by the very talented Mohamad Al Karbi, to guest blog. I took this as my chance to share my motto with everyone else out there. Go forth. Do not give up!

For more writing hints and to view my creative writing head to jessicabakkers.com

Many thanks to Mohamah Al Karbi for having me!

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About Jessica Bakkers

I am a creative writer with over twenty years of writing experience. I am a speculative fiction writer, and have written in the genres of fantasy-romance and paranormal-romance, however my genre of choice when it comes to writing for myself is dark fantasy where I can allow myself to fully explore the anti-hero characters that pepper my stories. I dabble at poetry and have written professionally for clients locally and internationally. My debut novel, Guns of Perdition, The Armageddon Showdown Book 1, is due for release later this year. My major love affair is with the written word; specifically creative writing. I allow myself to indulge and rendezvous with this secret lover whenever time allows… and then we make beautiful poetry together!

46 thoughts on “Staying strong in the face of rejection

  1. wongd306

    It is within your power to say no to failure and rejection. Just keep believing. Believe in God and believe that you are created unique and He cares that you succeed. Be strong, praying for your breakthrough.

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  2. winningsetbacks

    The very act of being rejected is to spur us on and make us better. let us make rejection an ally and not a foe. the very person that rejected you can take you the next few days, moths or years and you will be the only one to remind him/her because you have become ten fold better.

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    1. Jessica Bakkers Post author

      I’m glad you liked it. I’ve found in life that there’s always at least one person who i can count on to have my back and keep me strong. Sometimes that person is just me alone, but you know what, sometimes she’s all I need!

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  3. Octopuis

    I think this advice is also useful to those who are job searching. I know for sure at some point I’ve felt like I had no “market value” when I got rejected. But I’ve come to learn that it’s true that when one door closes, another door opens!
    And the reasons for rejection you mentioned reminds me of a quote that is somewhat relevant:
    Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. – Don Miguel Ruiz
    Sure our ability is a factor, but most of the time whether we get chosen or rejected is a matter of luck!

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    1. Jessica Bakkers Post author

      Thank you for the very personal comment! While I’m saddened to hear your story of rejection, im glad you were able to recognize rejection as the ultimate chance for ‘something else’ ; the proverbial open door. You might be interested in an upcoming post I will be publishing to my site, ‘Is your career feeding your black dog?’ All about how jobs have a huge impact on depression; something I’ve had personal experience with!

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